Miscarriage: Spiritual And Energetic Considerations
Miscarriage is a devastating experience and shockingly common, happening in about one in four pregnancies. It is defined as any pregnancy loss before 20 weeks of gestation, so it can look like anything from a chemical pregnancy, which happens before 5 weeks, to a loss beyond the 12-week mark, when many of us assume we’re in the clear.
In this article, we’re going to look at the spiritual meaning of a single miscarriage. If you’ve experienced recurrent miscarriages, read about that here: https://www.juliepeters.ca/readingnook/recurrent-miscarriage-spiritual-and-energetic-considerations
It is normal to ask about the meaning of horrible experiences like this, and there are a few ways we can think about how the body, mind, and spirit may be communicating through miscarriage. At the same time, however, we must be gentle with ourselves and beware of trying to find a meaning that may not be there. Considering the spiritual meaning of a difficult or even traumatic event can be powerful, as we have the capacity to learn something about ourselves or the world through these trials. Remember, though, that these difficulties are never about being punished for something you did or didn’t do. Self-blame is a common reaction to horrible experiences, but that doesn’t mean this was your fault. If some error, mistake, or moment of stress was enough to cause the pregnancy loss, abortion wouldn’t be such a political issue today.
Don’t be afraid to seek mental and emotional support in going through a miscarriage. As common as it is, it can be life-changing, and we need time to process and understand the loss for ourselves before we can move on. Try not to rush yourself and be gentle with your body and your heart as you are going through this.
Trust Your Body
Most miscarriages are caused by an issue with the fetus itself. The body recognizes that something’s not right and terminates the pregnancy early. Even if the issue was not with the fetus, there may be something else going on with the placenta or the womb environment that would have made the pregnancy unsustainable. Whatever happened, your body has wisdom about things your mind simply does not have access to, and miscarriage may be the body’s way of protecting us from more dangerous outcomes down the road. Trust that your body knows what it’s doing.
A Soul Perspective
There are various perspectives on miscarriage from a spiritual or religious viewpoint. Some believe that souls choose their incarnations, often choosing their parents. But a soul doesn’t fully attach to a body until after 20 weeks partly because miscarriage is so common. Spiritual energy and physical energy are different and work in different ways, so if a soul tries to come into a body and it doesn’t work out, that doesn’t mean anything is wrong or that the soul is trapped or can never come back.
Often a soul will try again after a miscarriage. The baby you lost may come back in a future pregnancy, an adopted child, or sometimes later in your family line if you choose not to continue to try to have a baby. Some souls do come in with the miscarriage for some other reason you may never know. In many cases, you will meet that soul again when the time is right. Even if you don’t, Spirit will find a different way. All will work out in its own time.
A Wake Up Call
In some cases, a pregnancy and miscarriage arrive to teach you something about your life path and correct it if you are going the wrong way. Consider the following questions:
Were you ready for and wanting this child?
What fears or new perspectives came up for you during this pregnancy and loss?
Are you clear on what you want in terms of a family?
Are you and your partner on the same page about what you want?
If this experience was a gift or a lesson for you, what do you think it would be teaching?
Stress
If you were able to become pregnant, enough things aligned in your body to allow an embryo to form. But in order for the embryo to sustain into a living child, the environment must feel safe, consistent, and connected. Obviously, stress is a large topic, but let’s consider this, especially from a fertility perspective.
Do you have enough space in your life to rest and allow your body to move through the changes of pregnancy?
Are you carrying enough weight to allow a baby to be nourished?
Are you sleeping well enough through the night?
Is there something in your daily life that is scary to you?
Is your relationship feeling peaceful and safe right now?
Is there something you need to change to support your body’s ability to take on the major physical and emotional task of gestation?
Keep in mind that we can’t control all stress. Reducing our commitments and prioritizing the health of our body is important, but stress is still going to happen and that’s normal and okay. There are larger systems that impact our lives that we can’t always make choices about, like the price of healthy food or the need to work to live. Your life doesn’t have to be perfect to make this work, but this experience may be teaching you something about caring for yourself and putting the needs of your body first.
Timing
There is plenty of mystery in the children we get when we get them. Many of us discover that we couldn’t have had the child we have without having miscarried the last one(s). Sometimes there is something happening in your life or in the world that you may not even be aware of that makes the timing not quite right for this soul to come earthside. Often when a project is finished, when work life settles, when more money finally comes in, when a stressful period is over and so on, that is when the body decides it is ready.
Consider what was going on when you were pregnant and when you lost the pregnancy.
How would the events of your life line up if you had had that baby?
Has anything changed for you since then in terms of what’s happening in your life or the world?
Is there anything that feels really big in your life that’s taking a lot of energy away from you?
Overall, remember to be gentle with yourself as you are processing this. Don’t rush to feel better or force yourself to “get over it.” Take the time to recover physically and emotionally. If any of these points resonate for you, sit with them and consider making any changes that feel right before you start trying again if you want to, keeping in mind that the choice not to continue is also completely valid.